So many of us have yelled out those famous words… “Take me away!” Every now and then we need to break away to rest, relax, and rejuvenate. I can already hear you saying, ‘Where am I going to find the time? I have kids! I don’t have the money! I have work! Too many people are depending on me to do…!” Let me ask you a question. What do you think will happen if you keep overworking without a break? What do you think will eventually happen if you take care of everyone else but you? Your body will eventually break down from the stress. That’s what will happen. You’ll become physically, emotionally, and spiritually drained. Everybody you helped will have what they need but you. You’ll have plenty of money from working but will be too tired to enjoy the fruit of your labor.
It doesn’t always cost a lot of money or take a lot of time to break away. You can spend the day at a spa. There’s nothing like a good massage or facial to help you relax. You can even break away while you’re at home. Draw a nice, steamy hot bubble bath and just soak for a while. Put on some soothing music (Be sure to keep any electronics away from the tub :-). We want you to rejuvenate not fry!). If you don’t want music, put on something that is positive and that will refresh and edify your spirit. I often like listening to a biblical cd or Zig Ziglar. Heres another idea. Take a tea break with a good book, read and meditate on the scriptures (works well for me, especially when I’m hanging out by the water), or plan an evening exhaling with your favorite sister friends.
There’s a lot of things you can do to relax and unwind. It is so important to take care of you. You must keep yourself as a top priority on your list in order to prevent meltdown, fatigue, and illness. Stress is a killer. We want to live long and live well. In order to do that we’ve got to start taking better care of ourselves. I was speaking with the phenomenal Wellness Coach/Keynote Speaker, Delores Burgess (http://deloresburgess.com) the other day and she reminded me that we do not have to be a negative statistic when it comes to cancer, heart attacks… However, it is imperative that we take care of our bodies and spirits. Each day we need to celebrate the life that God has given us by saturating ourselves in the word of God! In addition, each day, we need to eat well (What did you have to eat today?), exercise well, sleep well, and take out time to rejuvenate. Are you ready to shift your priorities so that you can be on the list? I know I am. Let’s take a break. Rejuvenate. Relax. Refresh our minds, bodies and spirits. Let’s commit to walking in wellness and encourage one another to do the same! We are worth it!
Wendy M. Reynolds
Wow, am I being conceited to speak the fact that we are Royal Ladies? I think not. Too often we forget who we are and allow ourselves to be treated cheaply. That has to come to an end! Now, I’m not saying that you should walk around with your nose in the air thinking you’re better than the next person. What I am saying is know your worth, know your value, and set standards based on who you really are. The bible says that we are a “Royal Priesthood (Read 1 Peter 2).” It says that we are “Fearfully and Wonderfully made (Read Psalm 139).” Proverbs 31 says that a “Capable, Intelligent and Virtuous Woman is far more precious than jewels, and her value is far above rubies or pearls (See Amplified version).” It’s time to start walking like we know who we are!
So, how do you walk in who you are? How do you change your view of who you are, especially if your view is negative? You have to first know who you are and that comes with finding out who your Creator said you are.
To discover the real you, get into the scriptures and find out what God says about you in His word. Otherwise, you’ll never know. In addition to the scriptures that I have listed, here are a few good starting lists: http://www.kenboa.org/downloads/pdf/IdentityAffirmations2.pdf, http://www.oneyearbibleonline.com/whogodsaysiam.asp. You have to continually replace your old thoughts of who you thought you were with who God says you are. Literally confess over yourself every day what His word says. You might feel silly at first, but believe me, once God’s word begin to take root in your spirit, you’ll find yourself conforming to and transforming into royal woman that you are. You’ll begin to treat yourself better. Others will begin to treat you better. You’ll begin to see your worth and distance yourself from others who don’t see it or respect it and from lifestyles that don’t represent who you are.
I remember talking to a young lady who prostituted herself. When I heard her story my heart wept. She couldn’t have been over 20 years old but she looked older and worn. When I asked her how she got started, she informed me that she used to date a gang-banger when she was 14. However, to be inducted in their little gang click, she was forced to have sex with all of the gang members. She did it and afterwards she felt worthless. On top of that, one of the other girls who was already in the little gang click didn’t like her and leaked the word on the street that she slept with all the gang-bangers. She couldn’t deal with all the talk and the rejection that came along with it. So she ran away and well, one thing led to another and she ended up on the street prostituting herself to survive. I’ll never forget her words, “That’s what I was anyway, right? I might as well get some money for it.”
Wow. There was a young lady who never knew what she was really worth. Nobody had ever told her. She really didn’t know who she was. She defined herself by her experiences. It was difficult to hear the words that I was saying to her. “You’re not worthless! God loves you! It doesn’t matter what you’ve done or where you’ve been. You have what it takes to make a change! Let me get you some help. This is not really who you are. The real you is hiding in there somewhere underneath the hurt, the shame, and the drugs you now take to cover up.” She had convinced herself that this is who she is and that her world was destined to be full of drugs and prostitution. Life would never be better. Oh, but it could be better. She just had to take the journey of learning who she really was and what she was really worth. That takes time. It takes help. It takes courage. This young lady needed someone to pour into her- to love on her without expecting something in return. She needed someone to help her challenge her definition of who she thought she was. Then she could start reflecting who she really was.
How are you reflecting and representing your royal heritage? Are you divinely defined by God or are you allowing other people or other things to define you. Are you selling yourself cheaply? Are you allowing yourself to be disrespected by others. Remember, you set the standard of how people will treat you. Set your standard by the word of God. Know your worth. You’re royalty. Walk like it. Look like it. Let your character reflect it. Represent it well.
Wendy M. Reynolds
The question “who are you?” seems to be such a simple question. Who am I? I am Wendy M. Reynolds. Yes, I am- but does that really define who I am? No. It identifies my title- my name given to me by my parents. I am the daughter of… This identifies my relationship to my parents. I am a writer but does that really tell you who I am or does it just identify what I do? Underneath the titles, underneath the presentations, who am I really? What makes me me? What are my passions? What type of character do I have? What are my likes and dislikes? What hurts have I encountered? What makes me laugh? What am I good at? What are my dreams!!! All of these things help make up who I am. I am more than what you perceive me to be. I am more than what I have presented myself to be and surely I am more than what my circumstances make me appear to be.
As we journey through life, we acquire so many roles. We want to be careful that in the midst of all the roles we play, we don’t lose who we really are. In addition, we experience many circumstances that try to define us. We are not our circumstances. I had the pleasure to watch a DVD entitled “Hiding Behind The Lipstick” presented by Myesha Chaney. I found it to be powerful. She addressed the issue of women hiding behind masks- not allowing the real us to show up. If you have an opportunity to see the DVD, or experiene it live, do so. Check here http://hidingbehindthelipstick.com or the link on my sidebar for the commercial. After you view the commercial, you’ll want to get the DVD. What I saw confirmed some things that were on my heart. It confirmed that it is time for healing. It is time to release the past. It is time to stop putting on false presentations. It is time to uncover the real person that lay hidden behind or underneath the fake smiles, behind our busyness, the pain, the mediocrity, the people pleasing, the shame… so that the real you can be revealed. It’s time to stop hiding underneath whatever keeps you from walking in freedom. Break free of all the chains that keep you tangled up and bound (fear, pride, addictions,…). It’s time for the real you to take the stage and be free- be at liberty to dance! Are you ready? Are you ready to give it all that you have? Are you ready to put your life in the hands of God. He know how to reveal you in the way that you should be revealed. After all, He is the one that created you!
Wendy M. Reynolds